Adultery stems from sexual immorality and fornication.
No one cannot stop adultery from happening.
Except the adulterer, that is.
We can pray and work to restore ourselves and our children. We can refuse to buy into the evil distortion that continuing a “marriage” with abuse is of God.
Abusive and adulterous unions are not marriage—that would require a basic element of trust and mutual love and understanding. Yes, there are dark seasons in marriage, especially with the stress of having a special needs child, or children, but God does not justify abuse or adultery.
Sexual immorality remains a threat to our future.
The seeds of sexual immorality in our American society, and how it colors my young adult son’s world, is a threat to our country’s future. Teaching our children sexual purity, even in the face of adultery, divorce and abuse, remains God’s plan for their lives.
No matter what my sons choose in their futures, I know that I taught them purity in his relationships and in marriage, as well as a respect for women. I am thankful that I taught them how to follow God through daily example, and yes, extreme trials and abuse.
Adultery distorts marriage.
Our non-Christian culture distorts marriage with sexual impurity and violence, but the problem is, that the Church has distorted Christianity, which has distorted Christian marriage. The church is not always a place of shelter, not because the people are imperfect, but because the expectation has become religious perfection, devoid of the Spirit of God.
You see, we have made it such a pop culture, filled with lights, camera and action, in order to reach the unsaved, that we miss the real needs of the people we reel into the church. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes it is fun, but tapping into the Spirit of God should be a higher priority (and, yes, it can also be a vehicle to create atmosphere). Yet, God tells us to care for widows and orphans in their distress. We are called to reach out to the unsaved, but care for the needs of the Body. We are called to push out the sexually immoral. The Word of God says:
But those who are outside, God judges. Remove the wicked man from among yourselves. 1 Corinthians 5:13
Active adulterers need to be pushed to repentance.
They are wolves among the sheep.
We become so accustomed to the culture of fake purity, that many people are sick and abusive on the inside, yet cover it up on the outside. No one thinks any different on Sunday morning, because many people plant smiles on their faces to cover up their dark hearts. Others hide their tears in fear and/or discouragement. Some flat out refuse to help certain “factions” in the Church. Everyone dresses and sometimes acts the part, but the Real Church needs to pray for spiritual discernment to remove the black sheep from among us.
Even worse, people are bleeding in unequally yoked and abusive marriages in this sort of toxic culture, and the Church thinks they can walk on by and do nothing.
This leads to martyrdom of women and children.
And it isn’t always unintentional, unfortunately.
When it comes to domestic violence in the Church, there has been a big cover-up. You know, don’t talk about it, and when a woman speaks out, tell her to submit and pray for her husband. Such people treat the abuser as if he is a Christian. The problem is, God did not call any of us to lay down our lives in the spirit of abuse. Why then, do “men of God” tell women of God to do what they would never do themselves?
When Paul suggests that Sara won Abraham over because she called him Lord, it was because she could not call him husband. And I can tell you from personal experience that a soft and gentle answer only deepens his evil hold on you and your children. It is the full armor of God that gives you power.
With Christ as our Savior, the Lord releases women from non-Christian men.
Spiritual discernment comes from the Spirit of God.
It does not come from intellectual reason or the quoting of legalistic verses.
The truth of the matter is: If a man says he is a Christian, but abuses his family, he does not know what a Christian is.
At this point, the Body of Christ needs to treat him for what he is: a non-Christian, and push him to repentance. The Church is called to protect the abuser’s victims, and drive him out of the church.
For, I tell you, he will only abuse his victims over and over again when given the chance. He has not, and is not choosing the way of God.
As my family can testify, this rarely occurs.
Adulterous men and abusers thrive in the church.
It is against the Word of God, to attempt to force women and children into unequally yoked marriages and relationships.
The church is sacrificing the very people whom they are supposed to protect–they are shutting out the future. Paul spoke against such relationships (2 Corinthians 6:14). So, why would pastors and leaders in the Church encourage otherwise?
I tell you, the physical church has followed religion and not the Spirit of God in this matter.
We need to return to the Biblical definition of marriage.
It is the antichrist who promotes adultery. Why are we? It is not enough to admit to adultery; adulterous men must actually repent.
It is also the antichrist to both promote and support physical, verbal, emotional and sexual abuse in marriage. God did not create men and women this way, and He certainly didn’t tell us to go and change who we are biologically. Nor does it include having an affair and delving into pornography.
We must follow the Spirit of God, not religion.
Paul gave allowances to walk away from non-Christian marriages, and we would do better to heed the Word of God rather than act as if these words were never spoken….for the protection of women and children. We would do better to nurture and protect such women, instead of pushing them back to an evil idea of marriage. If God justifies divorce and re-marriage from abandonment situations, then why are some pushing so hard against that?
Adultery is against God and His plan for marriage.
For God says:
For their rock is not like our Rock, as even our enemies concede. Their vine comes from the vine of Sodom, and from the fields of Gomorrah. Their grapes are filled with poison and their clusters with bitterness. Their wine is the venom of serpents, the deadly poison of cobras. Deuteronomy 32:31-33
Prayers for safety and peace in your home, in Jesus Christ~Kim