We love because He first loved us.
We love because He first loved us. 1 John 4:19
We don’t know how to love.
In the church, people say things like this to us:
- “Love is a choice.
- “Remain in abusive relationships no matter what.
- You never know, you might save them!
- God’s plan for you to is to stay married and love sacrificially (no matter what they do to you.).
- Married people are the only moral and upright examples of Christianity.
- If you have a special needs child, you must be living in sin.
- Or, your special needs child is a product of your sin, and God punished you.
- We need to save the black sheep that come to church by promoting them to service.
- Single people must get married before they are capable of helping anyone.
- Your special needs child will never be saved.
The problem is, that isn’t God’s love at all.
Jesus showed us how to help others.
Jesus’ life, death, and resurrection was His mission of love.
- He chose to heal the countless people who came near Him, even to touch the fringe of His cloak.
- He chose to live without luxuries, living among the people, to show and teach them the New Covenant.
- Jesus met the people’s physical needs with miracles.
- He carried out His religious duties in the Temple.
- He even paid taxes through a miracle;-)
- He implored the religious and legalistic to repent.
- He even loved the betrayer until the appointed time.
No, we cannot die on the cross or save people from their sins; Jesus already did that. He paid the price for us all, so we can only love in the example He gave us.
We are called to love our families!
You probably do it more than you know every day you care for your special needs child. Love comes from the heart, because Christ first loved us.
We can choose to love the people whom we are called to love to the best of our ability. We cannot save anyone. We really cannot heal anyone (including our children)–except through the power of the blood of Christ. We are only God’s vessels, cracked and broken, created for His purposes.
How do we love them?
- Care for our children’s medical needs
- Sacrificing financially
- Giving time and attention to our marriage that it deserves.
- We daily meet our children’s needs with food, shelter and love.
- Pray, read our Bible and share the love of God with them.
- Advocate for our children’s needs.
- Show our family members the love of Christ, even when they don’t deserve it.
I am sure you could add more ways to love our families–things you carry out every day!
YHWH must be our first love, so that we can love others. This is how we can repay Him, by following Him in love and then sharing that love with those around us.
Lord, help us to lay down our lives for those whom you have called us to. In Jesus’ name, Amen.