God sent Jesus to save us, not to condemn us to a life of sin. When Israel sinned, He allowed them to go their own way, suffering under the consequences of their sins. Then, when they cried out to Him, He saved them from their sins in a sweep of compassion.
We need to remember this when it comes to our families.
When special needs arrives into our lives, not everyone accepts it. There are 3 categories our family members fall into:
- Those who accept this life.
- Strugglers who wrestle with the idea, only to come to the truth.
- People who were never meant to accept it in the first place.
You may even be married to the third type of person and end up in divorce. There is nothing anyone can tell those outside this path of life. All we can do is tell it like it is and move on with our own journeys. Jesus is the Savior, not us, and not our children.
We live our lives for Christ, not to become saviors of the world. Only the Maker knows who will be saved and who won’t in the end. The lost choose to accept Christ or not.
It is like this.
Before I became a Christian, I remained lost in my sins.
I mean, didn’t you? Generally, I was not outright disobedient to God, but usually tried my best to be good. However, I spent some days like all of us, doing the wrong thing, even when I knew it was wrong. I justified my sinful behavior, but always came back to the truth that it wasn’t right. I seriously needed a Savior.
As I grew up I walked a journey of obedience and then spurts of disobedience, learning who this Jesus was and eventually gave my life to Him. I learned that all I could do is lay my messes at His feet and receive the love and forgiveness that only my Maker could give to me.
We seriously have to let the lost find their own path when they refuse to accept the truth of God.
God sent Jesus for those who trust in Him.
Saving the lost really is God’s job. I mean, we should speak the truth of the Gospel, but we cannot force anyone to accept it. Even God never does that. He may push the unrepentant into a corner, but He won’t force them to accept His love. When the Holy Spirit moves us to speak we must speak, but remember this verse from Romans 9:
For the Scripture says to Pharaoh: “I raised you up for this very purpose, that I might display My power in you, and that My name might be proclaimed in all the earth.” Therefore God has mercy on whom He wants to have mercy, and He hardens whom He wants to harden. One of you will say to me, “Then why does God still find fault? For who can resist His will?”…
When we speak by the Spirit we carry out the will of God and we leave the results to Him. God sent His Son for those who listen to Him and turn their lives over to the Savior.
God sent Jesus because He loves us.
He rebuilds the ruined places of His children. He raises up the foundations of many generations in the families who pursue Him. He restores the lives of those who accept His helping hand. Those who follow Jesus will find salvation and peace in our new lives. But, some just will not accept it. Some won’t ever accept it.
Does that mean we can save our families? Well, no, but the best thing we can do for them is to keep building our lives on a foundation of Christ. When we do this, we step out of the way, and let God do his work in our unsaved family members.
It is then, that true Love can shine through and do His work.