This is a blast post, so if you do not want to read about this topic, please feel free to disregard. Yet, when the Spirit moves me, I must answer the call, because I am His handmaiden.
Let me first say we should all lift up Josh Duggar’s family, his wife and children, as well as his parents and his siblings. But, we should pray for Josh Duggar’s repentance.
I speak from the heart as a former wife of an adulterer.
I also tell you from the Lord speaking in my ear, that Josh Duggar is not repentant. I prophesy to you that God will reveal more about his dark heart and his double life.
The human element of this sorrow is that Josh and men like him were abused, and instead of facing emotionally what they experienced, they hide it and then sometimes abuse others. Their problems give way to addiction and violence. The rest of us know that not talking about it does not solve the problem. In fact, the silent will only get worse.
If you are struggling with your own abuse issues, please find someone trustworthy and talk about it.
Religion is evil.
Far too often, the physical Christian church has followed religion. You know, we follow tradition or we replace it with another tradition. We list a bunch of rules to follow, only to not follow them ourselves. We dress a certain way and act a certain way. Then only do all of this on Sundays. At church.
Following rules, whether by a denomination or misconceptions of the Bible’s intent, will only lead to religion. Christianity is not that. Yes, it is considered to be a religion, but really Christianity is a change of heart in a miraculous way. It is the discovery or our real purpose on this earth and the choice to let the Holy Spirit guide us in that.
We must leave religious rules in order to find salvation at the cross.
Religion is not repentance.
Jesus gives grace to the sinner who knows flat out he or she is a sinner, not someone who fakes it. Someone like Josh Duggar walks into the church walls, and is able to shake hands with real believers because he is able to act like he is a believer. He was trained to do that. After all, his family has lived this way for years, and it was expected of him. So, he tried not to let everyone down. But, that doesn’t make him a Christian.
Real repentance is being so emotionally broken that you realize you are spiritually broken. It is realizing that the blood of your sins is on your hands and that your sins have impacted those around you, especially those close to you. It is realizing that only Jesus’ blood can wash you clean. Only He can change your life’s direction, and yes, He can totally change the circumstances we are in. Only Jesus is the source of grace and mercy.
And people, it will not come because we “read” the Bible, speak the right words, sing the right songs or even appear moral for a few hours on Sunday. It will come because we realize we messed up so bad that we are literally going to hell and spend our eternity with the devil. And, it is no joke, trust me.
As for sex and the church…
We don’t talk about healthy sexuality in the church walls. We talk about the fact that sex should be in marriage, and some churches pass out how to be pure sexually in singlehood. While that appears to be a good thing, it is making our churches sick.
Can I tell you as a woman who appears single on the outside, but is in a married relationship before God (It is just not legal), I am appalled at some married men in the church walls? Further, even when I came to church without my ex-husband, I was treated this way.
Because my church is large, and many don’t know each other personally, I have noticed that some married men have some sexual morality issues. Just so you know, I am not just picking on my church, because I have noticed this for years in many churches I have attended. But, God has called me to point this out.
I have had some married men follow me around the church. I have seen married men not wear their wedding rings at church. And you know the look. I have seen that look of lust on me as a woman who appears to be single by men in the church during church. And it isn’t because we need to wear bags over our bodies to be pure enough. Even though I don’t need to defend myself, I will say it for those who don’t know me personally, everyone knows that I always dress modestly.
And, you know, married men will not exhibit this behavior on women who are more obviously married. Unless, I guess, they are too far gone. So, instead, the women who are alone are scapegoated.
Sexual purity only comes through the Holy Spirit.
Sexual purity will appear to come through religion, and yes, some will strive and succeed more than others. But, I have seen far too many Christians attempt sexual purity through religion over and over again, only to fail.
The real winners succeed in sexual purity through the Spirit.
When we live our lives flowing in the Holy Spirit, we will live the missionary life, and we will not be able to live a life of sexual impurity, or any other immorality, for that matter. And, if you are married to a spouse and it is real, pure and justified before God, sexual impurity will be impossible. The two of you will walk in the Holy Spirit, who will keep you pure. The marriage bed must be kept pure and undefiled.
Are people going to fall away, stumble or misstep? Yes, but there is grace and mercy at the cross when we all repent. But if they walk in religion and not the Spirit, they will not end up in the pit that Josh Duggar is in. Only Jesus can bring him out and the Spirit will heal the rest of the family.
Pray for the Body as we walk through fire of refinement, and that we will come out pure and shining of holy Light on the hill.
The Lord’s blessings to you and your family~Kim