“Well, we both like red,” he told me.
“What else?” I asked him.
“We both like balloons,” he said.
“And?” I asked.
“We both like bean bags,” he remembered.
“Keep going,” I said.
We both like to wrestle!” he exclaimed.
Obviously. Outside of the creation truth, having a PWS brother has, of course, changed my son’s life.
He has had to learn to become more selfless and observant of his own behavior. He developed a compassion for those who were in need of special care, particularly the disabled. He has also had to give up a few chess tournaments, and large group activities so as not to bring home any unwanted viruses for his fragile baby brother. He has had to make sacrifices children with typical siblings have not had to make.
He has an anointing and a calling on his life, already laid out by the Creator, the One who made both of my sons in His image. I think that many of the typical siblings of our special needs children are this way too.
While we all, as special needs parents, look at the impact our special children make on our typical children, which we deem as not always the best thing, being a not so normal life. It always comes back to the fact that God purposed this to happen. God, the Creator of all, created both of my boys, and He gave them each other, for His multiple purposes in this life. He did the same for your children, creating the special and the typical, just as He desired. Frankly, I could not imagine life any other way.